- api lawannya air -

api....

panas... leh digambarkn utk seseorang yg sikapnya panas baran,pemarah,cepat marah,pendek akal,pendek nyawa.

api juga adalah bahan yang dimana Syaitoon Nirrojim dijadikan...

so sape marah2...memang mengundang kehadiran syaitoonn nirrojim tu kt diri dia...

jangan marah2... marah tu api ye..ye... api tu syaiton...ye ye.. so org marah tu mcm syaiton..yeye..*smbil ajuk intonasi datok fadzilah kamtumi*

so...ak dah blajar anger management..xmau marah2..

bila nk marah je..amik wuduk..

bila kita amik wuduk tu..wuduk tu air...air sememangnya diketahui umum dapat memadam api..

apatah lagi air wuduk.... tenang,sejuk je...

xcukop? pas amik wuduk , g wat solat sunat... solat tu penenang jiwa..

xcukop.? ada wuduk lg kan... g baca Al-Quran.... sejukk dengar... alhamdullilah..

xcukop? amik wuduk lg...insyaAllah.. ditambah 10 ganjaran pahala org itu..

p/s : mode ni utk menasihati dan mengingatkan diri sndiri dulu... sblm nk ubah org,ubah diri kita dlu...

- what men wants?? -

had u heard about "What Woman Want" starring Mel Gibson? Yeah.. me 2... it about a guy has his life turned haywire when a fluke accident enables him to hear what women think. good rite..haha. hope me 2... but men also had some few things that they want..

1* MEN NEED APPRECIATION: Remember why you fell in love with your partner. Make a list of his top ten character traits that caused you to want to be with him in the first place. Make a conscious effort to appreciate and compliment him. Even simple domestic tasks, like picking up takeout and taking out the garbage can be appreciated.

2* MEN NEED RESPECT: The two worst enemies of respect are criticism and judgment. This includes making him wrong or scolding him like a child. Above all else never berate him in public or you will lose him for good. It is imperative that a woman create a safe nonjudgmental space for her significant other or a man will shut down emotionally and sexually.

3* MEN HATE COMPLAINTS: The words “you” and “why” will send your guy into defense mode. Men are competitive by nature so he may fight with you when he feels challenged. Turn complaints into requests. Try starting with “I love it when you……” or “It makes me so happy when you……” This alone will cause him to sit up and take notice.

4* MEN FEEL EMOTIONALLY DISADVANTAGED: Research suggests emotions are overwhelming for men. They tend to operate off the logical side of the brain. So when faced with an emotionally charged woman a man will respond in anger 80% of the time. This coping mechanism is what he uses to attempt to gain control. A man cannot help but to be attracted to a woman who exercises emotional self control.

5* A MAN’S ATTENTION SPAN IS 2-3 MINUTES: Condense the story. Know yourself and how many words you need to speak, divide by four. That is about how many words he can physiologically handle, more than that and your message will be camouflaged. You may also set him up to fail and set yourself up for disappointment when he fails to recall your running commentary. Practice listening more, talking less. If he needs the juicy details, he will ask. Also, monopolizing all his time and energy could associate you with unpleasant feelings.

6* A MAN’S SCOREBOARD: The male neural circuit is wired with a scoreboard. They are competitive creatures by nature. There is only a win or a loss, nothing else matters. If you criticize him, it is an automatic loss. That is why he needs adventure and business and sports challenges. He needs to win. When he has not made you happy, that is a loss. And a loss is failing. Set him up to win and always reward his efforts.

7* A MAN’S MOST FEARED WEAPON: A woman’s angry tongue can be a man’s most destructive enemy. A deadly weapon as any guy will attest to. Make a conscious effort to reclaim that sweet, soft feminine voice you were born with. Nothing shuts down communication like a woman’s irritated tone or harsh criticism. Studies show the majority of men hear voice tone over words. Talk slower and softer and I guarantee he will react better. Instead of correcting your partner, positively impact your relationship with your speech. And lastly, do not underestimate the power of sultry, flirtatious suggestions. You will train him to respond eagerly to your voice.

thanx to Denise Wade, Ph.D.

where is Mrs.Right??

- bicara hati dan akal -

ok ni bkn dr ak sendiri...ak xda kemampuan utk menulis ini semua..tp ape yg baik,hendaklah di kongsi bersama....

Di sebuah pondok usang milik seorang hamba, akal dan hati berbual berkenaan kasih dan cinta..

Akal : Assalamualaikum, sahabat.

Hati : Waalaikumussalam...

Akal : Apa khabar iman anda?

Hati terdiam...

Akal bertanya sekali lagi.

Akal : Apa khabar iman anda?

Hati : Kurang sihat mungkin.

Akal : Mengapa?

Hati : Aku merindui dia segenap jiwaku...

Akal : Dia yang mana, sahabatku?

Hati : Kedua dia. Dia yang hakiki, juga dia yang entah kemana akhirnya..

Akal : Tidak mengapa, Itukan fitrah manusia.

Hati : Tapi rinduku kepadanya kadangkala membuat jiwaku runsing. Fikiranku melayang terbang jauh ke angkasa. Kadangkala ketika beribadah juga aku teringat dia.

Akal : Cintamu padanya, juga cintamu padaNya, cinta padaNya kan yang lebih utama.

Hati : Tapi... Aku benar cinta dia. Aku benar rindu dia. Aku mencintainya kerana Allah. Kami saling menasihati kepada kebaikan. Aku mahu mengejar syurga bersamanya.

Akal : Apa makna cinta?

Hati : Kasih dan sayang.

Akal : Bagiku cinta itu gila.

Hati : Mengapa pula?

Akal : Apabila kita mencintai seseorang, kita asyik teringatkan dia. Apa yang dikata jangan, sebaik mungkin kita elakkan. Apa yang diminta, seboleh mungkin kita usaha. Bila ada yang lain mendekati, bergelodak rasa cemburu. Apa kau rasa begitu?

Hati : Ya. Begitu yang aku rasa.

Akal : Apa kau tahu apa pula ibadah?

Hati : Orang kata ibadah itu taat dan patuh.

Akal : Ibadah itu juga adalah cinta.

Hati : Bagaimana dimaksudkan begitu?

Akal : Ibadah itu cinta. Berkasih-kasihan dengan Tuhan.

Hati terdiam lagi...

Hati : Jadi... Apa sebenarnya yang ingin kau sampaikan wahai akal?

Akal : Fikirkan, kalau kau benar mencintai dia kerana Allah, apa kau ada mengadu kepadaNya?

Hati : Aku puas sudah berdoa. Aku mendoakannya empat puluh kali setiap hari. Siang dan malam! Tegas hati..

Akal : Apa kau berdoa kepadaNya hanya kerana apabila kau terasa jauh dengannya? Apa kau hanya melipatgandakan ibadahmu ketika jiwamu rasa tak tenang?

Hati diam dan tertunduk...

Akal : Bagaimana boleh kau katakan cintamu kerana Allah. Sedangkan kau mengabaikan Dia ketika cintamu dengannya sedang indah bercahaya. Sabarlah wahai hati. Doamu mungkin tidak makbul sekelip mata. Barangkali Allah akan memakbulkannya di lain masa. Barangkali Allah ada hadiah yang lebih berharga untukmu!

Aliran sungai merah terasa semakin deras mengalir ke kepala...

Akal : Cinta kepada manusia yang gila seperti itu, hanya layak disandarkan kepada Allah. Allah menarik cintamu kerana Allah lebih mencintaimu. Allah merindui doa dan tangisan hambanya. Allah mahu kau kembali mengindahkan cintamu kepadaNya!

Hati mulai menangis... Sepi... Kesal...

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